Meet the Sullivans: Camping Widow Brain Dump

July 11, 2013

Camping Widow Brain Dump

I'm single parenting it for the next few days, guys. Can't say I've been looking forward to this "guys camping trip" Keith is on right now, but we're going to do our best over here to keep busy and stay positive.

Today we got out of the house first thing and tried our hardest to be out for most of the day. We went to Gymboree in the morning, where Owen proceeded to get most of his wiggles out. We followed that up with a trip to Target for some retail therapy for mommy. Besides the usual (toddler snacks, milk, soap of some sort) I didn't buy anything too interesting, but I did pick up a bottle of the Skinnygirl® Sweet 'n Tart Grapefruit Margarita (it's the bomb) and some new Papermate Flair Pens. Super interesting, right? Well, when you're a Camping Widow the littlest things really do float your boat.



I'm sure most of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, because 99% of the time my husband is home each night. He doesn't do "guys nights", he doesn't have to travel for work or work too late, and generally, he just prefers to be at home with us. So really I have a lot to be thankful for in that arena. Having said all that, maybe always having him around makes it even harder when he is gone from us. We miss him a lot, of course, and I sure miss the extra set of hands, but mostly just his company.

Honestly, today was not all that hard. Like I said, we kept busy, even after nap time when we went to the park for a while before coming home for dinner. Like any other SAHM can tell you, we're used to doing it all on our own, so today we just went about our usual business, but in the back of my mind I remembered to be extra nice and patient and positive for both of us (hence the margarita for mommy and the cool new remote control car for O) since I knew our "good day" was going to have to last us through to bed time. And there would be no search party sent out for me if the evening wasn't going well. I'm on my own folks!

You know what IS a little hard about this? (major brat comment coming up) ...remembering that I never take a "girls weekend" and that I'm slightly jealous that my husband gets to be away for 3 whole nights and four whole days with his friends doing whatever they please, having some drinks, talking and taking in the peaceful bliss of the wilderness, relaxing while not having to think twice about anyone else's needs. Totally bitter about that -- mostly because I know Keith would be fine with me going away for a night with my girlfriends, but I don't know if I could leave Owen. I wish I could, but I can't find anything I would rather be doing to take me away for a whole night. He's where I want to be...

Anyway, as much as I wish Keith were here right now I am sort of enjoying the little perks of being on our on. I don't have to cook dinner, although tonight I did, but it was as simple as simple gets. Spaghetti and meatballs and we both loved it. I get to spread out and take up the whole bed tonight, for the whole night. After Owen is in bed I can watch whatever I want on tv. Real Housewives of New Jersey? Sure! A few TED talks? Why not! Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead? Yep, finally gonna watch it after I finish writing this.

So, you see, there are ups and downs of this whole Camping Widow thing, and while I'm trying my best to be upbeat and remember the positives of this situation, I am sure come Sunday morning (let's be real, more like tomorrow afternoon) I will be counting down the seconds until he walks through the front door. Smelly dirty camping clothes, muddy shoes and all!

6 comments:

Jen said...

Hang in there! I don't take girls weekends either. John is currently living part time in Miami. Major adjustments have been here. It's hard being momma and daddy. And I also have to play husband and cut the grass. No fun.

hello erin said...

I have 100% confidence you and O will do amazing!! But it's so hard being the only one for a whole weekend! You totally deserve a mani-pedi after this!! My husband never goes away either- which means I rarely get the whole bed, ice cream for dinner, and a night of my reality shows :)

Laura {happily ever} Parker said...

My husband leaves often for work and although right now we have no children, I miss him! Except for when I remember all the awesome that is on my DVR (reality TV central!)

FemminaDaVinci said...

Right now the Salmon are running, so I have been a "fishing widow" most weekends... he's in the military though, so we are used to him being gone all the time.

Whitney said...

Moms & Dads are just so different! I can totally understand you on the being away for awhile for a Dad vs. for a Mom. Although I think that sounds great, I just would rather not do it! Yet, I want to be upset if my husband does? Haha, makes no sense at all, but I feel the same way!

rachel said...

What a great post! I too get so jealous sometimes of my hubs when he gets a guys night or a fun weekend away, but at the same time I love my alone time. i.e. time to watch all the Real Housewives! :)