Meet the Sullivans: Things I Said I Would Never Do

October 15, 2013

Things I Said I Would Never Do

Before I was a mom I had grand ideas about the kind of mom I was going to be. I didn't think I'd be perfect or that my children would always be well-kept, but I did think I would hold us to certain standards. Those standards are the very same standards that have slipped by the wayside as the reality of motherhood has settled in.


"When I'm a mom I'll never __________."

Let him watch television before two. I'll admit, we let Owen watch a few shows each day. Usually it's so I can start dinner, get dressed or sit down for a few minutes. And you know what? I see nothing wrong with it, especially since means that in return he gets a healthy dinner offered to him each night by a mom dressed in clothes who isn't beyond exhausted because she got to sit down for a few minutes. See? Everyone wins.

Allow him to have ice cream before dinner. This probably has more to do with me relinquishing control to someone else who may be taking care of him while we're out, i.e. our moms. Ideally he would be eating something nutritious, but when someone else has him and they're just trying to keep him happy and entertained in our absence--so I have to cut them some slack. There could be worse things.

Let him bring toys to / color in / eat in church. We're just happy to be able to make it through half of Mass these days with Owen. So if giving him a crayon, car or cracker means we can stay just a little longer, so be it. But there will come a time I'll expect him to sit and try to listen -- that I will hold him to, but not until he's closer to 5.

Go out in public with food on his face or shirt. I still cringe when I notice Owen has some food on his face when we're out shopping and swiftly wipe it off his sweet little face of course, but when we're running out the door to make it to a class or the park I'm not stopping to change his shirt just because there's a little stain. Sorry, sometimes getting us out ASAP is more important than appearances. Plus, toddlers are messy and anyone who doesn't know that has probably never met one.

Let my him dictate what happens in our home.  This doesn't happen all the time, but I've learned (as recommended by our amazing pediatrician who has 35+ years of experience) that it is important to pick your battles. Play with knives and dance on the kitchen counter? No. Eat Goldfish crackers before dinner, off the living room floor. I guess that's okay. We're doing our very best with Owen each day, and sometimes our very best is just making sure we all survive! 


In light of it all I can say that without a doubt parenthood has encouraged us to be more easy going, and I still think we're doing a pretty great job.

15 comments:

Colleen Sullivan said...

Agreed! Sometimes our very best IS just making sure everyone survives, and that's okay!

Colleen Sullivan said...

I just loved reading this! I feel the exact same way!

Colleen Sullivan said...

This might be my favorite post of all time! I may have to do one, too! Love your honesty, and every mom can relate. Owen is a happy & healthy, so you are definitely doing a good job, mama!

Colleen Sullivan said...

I love this! And although I am not a parent yet I know well enough to say "I never" :) Owen seems like a happy little boy, you're doing a great job!

Colleen Sullivan said...

Aww, On The Night You Were Born makes me cry every time, too! I'm going back and reading all of your Owen posts the past few days. :-) My boy is almost 5 months and I have started reading a whole new set of blogs since he came into my life!

Colleen Sullivan said...

This is so true. You have to pick your battles. Also, I said I'd never put my kid on a leash. I had a little boy who was very active at 1 and 2. There was a Modern Family episode about it and I actually told myself to never say never. (I never did put him on a leash but thought about it many of times-the leash being a monkey backpack with a leash. Haha.)

Colleen Sullivan said...

Love this - definitely things you learn. Abbie has already watched some shows at 9 months...and her face lights up when she hears the Dora theme song. It's actually pretty precious!

Colleen Sullivan said...

i love this keepin-it-real post!!! it's so good for me to read about the not-so-kodak moments while i'm not a mama yet! thanks for sharing. this made me smile!

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elise

Colleen Sullivan said...

What a great post! Sometimes it's all about survival mode, right!? Love your thought about getting dressed in real clothes!! Keep up the great work, mama!

Colleen Sullivan said...

I feel the same way. I had a list of things I said I would never do. But you live and you learn. :)

Colleen Sullivan said...

Such a great reminder! Love this post!


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Colleen Sullivan said...

I completely agree! I had so many ideas of what I would and wouldn't do as a parent but then you become a parent and everything you thought you knew went out the window! And I completely agree you have to pick your battles....if putting Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on prevents total meltdown before bed...Mickey it is!

Colleen Sullivan said...

Clearly you are doing an awesome job Momma, look at that boys smile! I can completely relate to this post! Thanks for sharing!!

Colleen Sullivan said...

yup... feel the same way here. I'm not totally going against my stated ways, she still eats (mostly) organic, but I find I'm pretty lienent too (she had funnel cake and cotton candy at a picnic this weekend - just a few bites of each though, not like her own) and the tv thing is really taking off now that she developed an attention span and always asks me to turn it on. We are all just trying to survive the day :)

Colleen Sullivan said...

Oh yes, yes, yes. I love a good before and after post. We ALL have them!