This week's topic is about feeling confident in motherhood. The biggest challenge, in my opinion is the "mother's guilt" so many of us feel. It comes as naturally to a mother as the instinct to care for their little one.
When I was a new mom (O is on his way to three, so I don't consider myself a "new mom" anymore) I doubted everything I did. Things are much different these days -- I feel confident in my ability to parent, but with a newborn I worried about things like "Am I feeding him often enough?", "Is my child thriving enough?", "Am I doing enough to enrich my 2 month-old's life?" and "Why is he crying? I must be doing something wrong." And then there was always the worry about going out in public and thinking someone else is going to think you're doing it wrong.
The best advice I ever heard was a woman in the Nordstrom bathroom who told me "You're doing a great job!" That was the greatest thing a new mom could hear. She saw me struggle with soothing Owen after nursing him, and probably saw the worry and anxiety on my face. Her words were what I truly needed to hear that day, not the usual "Why do you think he's crying? Is he hungry? Time for a nap! You shouldn't be out with him in this rainy weather!!! etc., etc., etc.
In truth, those are all ways of questioning a mother's ability disguised as concern. Ways of saying, "You're obviously DOING it WRONG, let me tell you the way IT SHOULD BE." To be good moms we all need a little encouragement every once in a while. A few kind words can go a long way in improving someone's day.
There is no should be, all moms and all children are different. You don't know what the morning has been like, or what the hours and minutes before have held for them. Trust that she is doing her best and loves her baby. Give all mother's a little bit of trust. And trust yourself. YOU"RE DOING IT RIGHT!
So now it's your turn to share! How do you feel confident as a mom? Check out the other mama's blogs for even more on this! And be sure to link up with us below if you also have a post on this.